It’s no secret that I’m a big fan of He’s Just Not That Into You (the book, not the movie). From the day that I snuck into an airport gift shop and guiltily cracked its binding, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo’s no-excuses advice told me what I needed to hear, in a world where women will say anything to encourage a friend (even if it leads to total disaster).
And for those of you (gentlemen…) who are rolling your eyes right now, let me remind you that this is a book that tells millions of women to stop acting crazy and move along. Get behind it.
A year later, my attitude about dating is a lot more healthy than it used to be. Sure, I still keep myself available and interested, but I don’t spend days obsessing or “reading the signs” like everyone else. I live my life, and let what happens, happen.
Still, watching that hilarious video from The Onion (He’s a shapeshifter, ladies!), I can’t help thinking that most books are not a good way to be successful in dating. It’s not like dieting – if you follow all the “rules”, it doesn’t guarantee that you’ll lose weight get a date.
If you did, here’s what you might end up with:
Rule #1: Not being nice doesn’t make you a bitch, it makes you a “confident” woman. – Why Men Marry Bitches by Sherry Argov
Rule #2: Be a lady in the street and a freak in the bed. – Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man by Steve Harvey
Rule #3: Forget what I said about dating not being dieting – there is a program for people who are bad at it. – Love In 90 Days by Diana Kirschner
Rule #4: Any little thing you do could turn off a man. – The Man Plan: Drive Men Wild… Not Away by Whitney Casey
Rule #5: It’s not you that needs help with dating, it’s the men. – A Practical Handbook For The Boyfriend by Felicity Huffman and Patricia Wolff
Rule #6: Thou shalt fish for men in a rich pond, but not be a gold digger. – Become Your Own Matchmaker by Patti Stanger
Rule #7: You can’t talk to a man about your problems. – Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by John Gray
Rule #8: There is no Mr. Perfect. Settle for Mr. Good Enough. – Marry Him by Lori Gottlieb
Confused? You should be. Now get your nose out of a self-help book, and go outside and be yourself! ♥